Gavin Grier found liable for stalking and harassment

To avoid wasting your time, I’ll get right into it:

Summary

For 11 months, I was the target of a systematic campaign of harassment involving texts and calls from over 30 fake phone numbers, threats to both me and my friends, and vandalism damage to my car.

In late 2025, I sued Gavin Grier in the Franklin County Municipal Court of Ohio for stalking, harassment, and vandalism. Gavin was found liable in 2025 for everything I sued him for in a civil judgement. **Unfortunately, Gavin has not paid the court-ordered fines, and he has not stopped harassing others. I am now sharing this timeline and the evidence to stop him this pattern of behavior for continuing. Here is how it happened.

(You can verify the court decision yourself: go to https://www.fcmcclerk.com/case/view and search “Gavin Grier.”)

Everything on this page is from my perspective, but I have also laid out evidence to back all of it up. To protect third parties, the only personal information on this site is Gavin’s name. All other personally identifiable info (phone numbers, addresses, names, etc) was redacted. If you see a phone number un-redacted, it means the phone number did not resolve to a real person; it was purchasesd online by an app like Pinger or TextNow, so it’s not a ‘real’ number. I don’t redact those.

Lastly, If you have questions, email me at questions(at)sullivan(dot)mx. This is a REAL email, so reach out if you are confused or unclear on anything.

Intro & How we met (January – April 2024)

As a quick intro, my name is Sean. I have a 9-5 like everyone else, and I graduated college fairly recently. I like to think of myself as relatively uninteresting aside from this.

I met Gavin in January 2024 from a dating app. I was wrapping up my last year of college, and Gavin had just moved from Seattle to attend flight school in Sidney, OH. We talked for a few weeks and eventually went on a real date on March 5th. It was fine but I told him I was busy with my last semester and probably wouldn’t be able to see him much.

Around April 4th I reached out and invited him to my fraternity formal that weekend. I texted him with one day of advance notice, but was surprised that he said he was free. I texted him back and said plans were changing so to not count on it 100% just yet. The next day I ended up canceling because it was too hard to coordinate that quickly. I stopped texting him after that.

This is also the time when the stalking started.
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The first messages came in right as I went quiet with Gavin. These messages consisted of homophobic slurs and aggressive texts.

For the rest of this article, I will use BLUE outlines to denote text messages that came from Gavin’s REAL number. RED outlines will indicate fake phone numbers; ones that resolve to no caller ID, are impossible to track down, and are associated with online carriers like Pinger and TextNow. Again, tap on any image to open it in a new window.

What jumped out months later was the slang they would use. I didn’t realize it at the time, but these numbers kept spelling things “fkn” and “tmmr.” I noticed those spellings specifically because Gavin used them in his own texts to me. It’s not common shorthand.

By mid-April of 2024 I was still trying to figure out who was behind it. I hadn’t yet pieced together that it could be Gavin.

Around late April, another phone number called me, but this was an iPhone. I searched the number and found it went to a man who lived in Seattle. I reached out, and this guy was very kind. He said that person said “his cousin” put him up to it.

May – August 2024

In early May, Gavin and I started messaging on Snapchat again. I got back in touch with him, in the midst of all this stalking. I still didn’t know who was doing it.

However, right on cue, the harassment stopped. The last message from the stalker was April 17th.

We were friendly again through May. In June he came into town; we went to dinner and later joined up with my roommate and a group of friends. Gavin met my roommate as well as a woman named K*** who was part of the friend group and lived in Chicago. After that night, Gavin and K*** started texting regularly.

A few weeks after this night out with me and my friends, he told me he wanted something serious. I was honest with him: I didn’t feel a romantic connection and wasn’t interested in pursuing that. I suggested keeping things casual. He said no.

The last real conversation we had that summer was in July. I mentioned I was helping my parents move before a family trip to Europe. He said, “You can’t just find some friends to replace them?”

I remember being so mad at him for suggesting I replace my parents on a family trip that they were paying for. I blew up at him and he left me on read. We didn’t talk for months.

September – October 2024

In September, someone messaged me on Grindr, calling themselves “River.” This person said he was moving to Ohio in December for flight school.

Something was off from the start. His photos had old Grindr watermarks, the kind the app stopped using years ago. Also, despite claiming to have a girlfriend, he texted back at all hours, instantly. When I ran his photos through a reverse image search, the only result was an adult film link. No social media, no college photos, nothing that a real person who exists would have.

I kept talking to him anyway. We texted for a few weeks. Eventually he asked about my history with guys.

I vented to this person about Gavin. I called him an asshole and said he was a narcissist. Within one day of that conversation, “River” completely changed. He called me “super stuck up” and said he was done talking to me. Then he told me he had tracked down Gavin’s number through a ‘flight school schedule’ and texted him, sending along screenshots of everything I said.

I found this hard to believe on multiple levels. Flight school staff numbers aren’t listed anywhere publicly, especially for MCA. And this person, who supposedly had no connection to Gavin, suddenly cared enough to go find him and forward him my private venting.

Over the next few weeks, the stalker kept coming back specifically to bring up the word “narcissist.” Not the other things I said but that specific word. He kept coming back to that one specifically, in a way that made me think it had actually hit something.

What’s interesting is the story I’m supposed to believe. I meet a guy on a dating app, text him for a while, call someone a narcissist, and then IMMEDIATELY afterward I am the scum of the earth and deserve endless harassment. Furthermore, it’s not enough to harrass me, this number has resolved that both me AND gavin have to be harrassed. Gavin specifically, no one else. Why would a guy care so much about two gay men he has never even met? If you were Gavin, you might be mad about the fact that I ghosted you previously, or that I went on a date with you and then told you afterward that I didn’t enjoy it and didn’t want to pursue things further. Then I called you a narcissist. If you are Gavin, that may have made you mad. Mad enough to stalk me…

After a few days, I eventually text Gavin directly to ask how he was doing. He sent me screenshots of what “River” supposedly sent HIM. He seemed happy I reached out, and even apologized for how he acted in the past.

November 2024 – January 2025

The stalker had been asking to call for days now, and I felt like it might be the only way we could resolve this. Naively, I agreed to calling. Turns out, there was no person on the line, just a prerecorded robotic voice reading a threatening message.

At first I thought it was a person, but then recognized the robotic message playing over and over again. I don’t think I’ve ever been so scared and creeped out in my entire life.

The first audio is more chilling. The second one has a lot of silence in it, but it’s still creepy. I recommend you take a listen to both.

You can also see this on YouTube if you prefer: https://youtu.be/9QgQPyUm_g0

The texts kept coming through October and November. The angle had shifted: The stalker said I had ruined things with Gavin, I was the problem, I was “stuck up” and unlovable. I realized that this person is very scary. They don’t even want me to know what their voice sounds like. The stalker had made me feel so bad about the situation that I felt I was in the wrong for ever using the word narcissist in the first place. I had no self confidence left at this point, and every night after work I sat at home wondering why I had done this. Why I had called anyone a narcissist. Beating myself up over and over again.

I started to wonder if maybe I really had been unfair to Gavin.

So in mid-November I reached back out to him. Texted him and apologized, said I felt bad about how we’d left things.

To my surprise, he responded, and stalker immediately went quiet.

We texted through December and made plans. I went over in January, we talked, I spent the night. Then he came to see me later in January. We went to a concert that night, on January 28th. I drove us there in my brand new Kia sedan I’d bought four months ago. He stayed at my new apartment for the first time that night.

After these nights, nothing had changed romantically for me. I felt good that we were talking again, but I realized my original assessment of him was the correct one, and that would not change. I wasn’t into him. I stopped responding quickly, and stopped trying to initiate the next hangout.

And interestingly enough, the stalker was back. For the first time since I reached out in November, I received texts from the stalker again.

That same morning, I got this from Gavin:

The stalker was now back.

Late January – March 2025

The texts restarted immediately after I told Gavin I wasn’t interested. These time they went to my Google Voice number too, not just my regular phone.

The stalker told me to go look at my car. He suggested there was a ‘gift’ for me, which made me think it was a bomb. I went down to my parking garage and checked from a distance, walking up to ANOTHER CAR and pretending to be looking at that one, only briefly glancing at my Kia from across the floor. I walked back to my apartment and told the stalker my car was fine. He said that now he knew what kind of car I drove. Except no he didn’t, anyone who watched me that night would have thought I owned this SUV I was standing next to. I said oh yeah, what car. He said a grey Kia sedan. This tracks well for someone who was just driven to a concert in it.

I had traded in my old red Jeep in August 2025, after Gavin and I had stopped hanging out. Almost nobody knew I had a new car. Gavin had just taken a ride in it four days earlier.

In early March, my car was vandalized. The day after, one of the fake numbers texted me. The text read “Omg sean what happened last night”.

What happened was someone dumped a gallon of paint on my car. The paint they dumped caused permanent damage, requiring about $4000 in repairs to the hood. (It was a matte hood, so the paint had to be stripped and re-applied)

After this, the harassment expanded. My roomate began to get texts too. The numbers claimed to know exactly where he was at different points throughout the day. Some numbers posed as coworkers of mine, others as insurance agents. One spoofed call came from an iPhone we were able to trace to a Snapchat account connected to one of Gavin’s friends. Funny enough, we thought this might be Gavin, since Gavin is the ONLY person I have been romantically intertwined with who has had access to my roommate’s phone number. We were all put into a group chat last year, when we all went out together with a big group (see the screenshots above).

Let’s look at some of the harassment:

The stalker had already crossed all kinds of boundaries, doing things like sending photos of me to my roommate behind my back, and texting people claiming to be a ‘friend’ who heard that Sean hates them and wants them to die.

My favorite anecdote: He texts my roommate, and tells him that he is a friend, and “Sean says you are a bad roommate. You always leave your dishes out. He talks shit about you to other people”

This is funny because I texted him earlier that day to thank him for doing the dishes for me.

March – May 2025

By February, My roommate and I had a theory that it was Gavin, we were just trying to confirm it.

The location tracking texts Gavin would send us were the clearest tell. My roommate shared his Snap Map with all his friends, Gavin included. Once my roommate turned off location sharing, the texts about where he was throughout the day stopped immediately.

We also started feeding fake information to one of Gavin’s friends who would regularly ask my roomate how we were doing. My roommate decided he would mention a fake scenario to this girl: he told her that he was moving out because he hated living with me after all the stalking. He told her that I ‘didn’t care’ about the stalking and I was a terrible friend.. Within days, the stalker texted us with that exact information, framed as an insult.

After receiving this text, we knew it was Gavin. Gavin’s friends had told him that the stalking issue had driven me and my roommate apart, and it ended up in the stalker’s texts. He’s not even that good of a stalker.

I eventually started to see other guys, and had a boyfriend that summer. In may of 2025, the stalker texted me saying he saw us kissing in the park. Having known it was Gavin for months now, I decided it was time to act. I went to the Franklin county court and filed suit that same day. Plus I texted a group chat with me, my roommate, and Gavin, and dumped all the evidence into it. Funny enough, we have never been stalked since the very day we texted Gavin.

We heard from Gavin’s friends that this message sent him into overdrive. He was ‘freaking out’, they said, and he wouldn’t tell them why. Probably because if he explained it, he knew how horrible it would sound.

After I filed the lawsuit, I started reaching out to some of the people that called and texted me. Several of the numbers were iPhones, evidenced by the blue bubbles. I followed leads on every single one of these numbers, and had a few good conversations.

Take a look:

As we can see, more indisputable proof that Gavin was trying to harrass me.

I learned that Gavin moved back to Washington after seeing the lawsuit. People in his circle told me he left specifically to avoid being served. Despite this, a few months later, I won in Franklin County municipal court. Magistrate judge Kirk Lindsey ordered him to pay the amount I was suing for, plus court costs and filing fees.

Aftermath

I thought this was over, but then the months went by and he never paid. For that reason, I personally served him a copy of the court order in April 2026.

His response made it clear that he does not care about what he did. No apology, no promise to do better, no promise to stay out of my life. Just acknowledging that he will pay what the court ordered him to.

The reason I’m writing this is that it seems to never end. Through learning he was the one who stalked me, I connected with at least three other individuals of which he has texted and called to harass. It seems as though he believes there will never be any consequences for these actions. I hope there are.

Every fact in this story is verifiable. If you’ve Googled him (Gavin Grier, pilot, Sidney Ohio, Seattle) and ended up here, take this information into account if you are considering associating with him. Make the most informed decision according to your values.